21 Questions with Bachelor of the Week
The 26-year-old talented medical student and Andrew Christian’s model was born in Beijing. James graduated from Cornell, and becoming a doctor has always been his career goal. The soon-to-be sexiest doctor alive reveals his emotional coming out story, and how his life has been living in San Francisco. Don’t forget to hit the SHARE button if you love it!
“I work out 5-6 times per week, I found that dragging myself to the gym despite being exhausted after a 12 or 16 hour day during surgery or on inpatient rotations helped me stay sane. This past year, I have gotten more into modeling. It started with The New Asian Man calendar, and modeling with Andrew Christian. It’s an honor to represent Asian men in media and in American gay culture. In my spare time, I enjoy cooking, reading and hanging out with friends. I hope to become a motivational public figure and inspire people to always work hard and never give up on their dreams.”
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1. Living in?
I’m from Ohio, but I was born in Beijing
4. Three apps which you are addicted to?
5. Favorite part of your body?
6. Which part of a hot guy catches your eye the most?
His nice firm butt and a solid pair of legs
7. Three things which will get you into bed?
A sharp wit and intellect, a nice face and body, and a good sense of humor
8. Your weirdest turn on?
A great cologne
9. The strangest place you have done it?
In an RV
10. Three qualities in your perfect boyfriend?
11. Dealbreaker (Something he does which prevents you dating him)?
12. How long have you been single?
TRAVEL SAN FRANCISCO
13. Three reasons to visit?
1. People are extremely friendly,
2. San Francisco is a beautiful city,
3. Must try local food: Tony’s Pizza Napoletana
14. When is the best time to visit?
Middle to late June if you want to join gay pride. I would say that the best time to visit is around August, when the weather is a little warmer. The temperature varies but is usually around 60F/15C, for the rest of the year, and some parts of the city can be pretty foggy and chilly.
15. What’s your recommended must do attraction?
Party Boys: The Castro is a vibrant and entertaining neighborhood with a lot of great bars and fun dance clubs. There is usually a mixed crowd, and each bar or club has its own distinct character and ambiance. Places I like to go include The Cafe, The Mix, and The Lookout. What is important to know is that most bars in The Castro do not take credit cards, so make sure you bring cash.
Foodie Boys: The best place for Asian food would be Japantown and the Sunset, must try hot pot, pho, ramen, and poke. The Mission has a large community of Hispanic people, and there is some great food there as well.
Other amazing locations include Land’s End for hiking, Golden Gate Park for walking, Fisherman’s Wharf for sight-seeing and seafood, and Delores Park for relaxing and hanging out.
DRINK SAN FRANCISCO
16. Favorite night to party?
17. Where would you go?
It depends. Two great parties for gay Asian guys include Shangri-la, usually on the last Saturday of each month at the EndUp, and GAMeBoi at Rickshaw Stop, which is also a monthly Saturday event that is 18+.
18. What’s special about it?
Being gay and Asian in America can sometimes feel alienating as we are a marginalized group of people in the gay community.
Having a safe space to hang out and party with guys who are also gay and Asian is a special privilege.
SLEEP SAN FRANCISCO
19. Which neighborhood is best to stay in?
I would say for a tourist, you should try to stay downtown, where you have easy access to shopping, a lot of great restaurants, and tourist attractions. Getting around via public transportation and taxi is pretty convenient.
The Castro is the closest to the gay bars, but it can be loud. The nice hotels are located downtown in Union Square and Nob Hill. I live in the Sunset, which is very suburban and quiet.
20. Whats special about that neighborhood?
In downtown, you really feel like you are in the heart of the city. Around the holidays, downtown is beautifully decorated. You also get to be right in the midst of all the hustle and bustle of all the excitement and culture of the city.
I would definitely encourage exploring all the different neighborhoods, because each neighborhood has a unique personality.
21. If you were a tourist visiting which hotel would you stay in?
Park 55 (Hilton)
James on coming out & life as a gay man:
“It was extremely difficult. As the only son of a traditional Chinese American Christian household, it was the most difficult thing I have ever done in my entire life. I couldn’t even bring myself to tell my parents in person. I remember distinctly on the first Monday in January, of 2013, I wrote them a long letter and just left home. After the reunion, it was a long and arduous process that took the better part of the year. After a lot of tears and family movie nights with films like “Prayers for Bobby” and “Priest,” eventually my parents realized I was the same person, and that being gay didn’t fundamentally change who I was. I’m really proud of the progress they have made, and my parents are the most important people in my life.
Coming out to my friends was difficult too. I was heavily involved in a Christian organization at Cornell. After I graduated in three years, I took a year off before starting medical school. Leaving the campus really allowed me to reflect and find myself. I lost contact with a lot of friends from college as a result of it, but there is not a single day that I regret coming out. Now I have a community of amazing, talented, brilliant people who I can call my family. Being able to be myself has also strengthen a number of my existing friendships. The support has been overwhelming, and moving forward, there is still a lot for me to learn as an out gay man. It has also shaped my vision for myself as a future physician, advocate, and activist.
Moving to SF has been one of the best thing that has happened to me. It is one of the most gay-friend cities in the world. In addition to having a dynamic and lively gay nightlife scene. I can’t really think of a negative aspect of being gay in San Francisco.
I don’t really enjoy circuit parties (unless I’m hired to attend). I think they perpetuate a destructive lifestyle that is focused on recreational drugs, superficial standards of attractiveness, and mindless casual sex with complete strangers. However, I think that if you go with a group of reliable and responsible friends, it can be a fun experience every now and then.
One of the best things about being gay is that I feel that I can be completely open about my sexuality, especially with my gay friends. There is a certain openness that I feel creates a judgement-free environment amongst gay men to speak unapologetically about sexual issues without fear of embarrassment or censorship.”