21 Questions with Bachelor of the Week
Coming out is never easy, especially difficult for traditional Asian families. It’s taboo to do anything that will dishonor or shame the family. Jackie said, “It saddens me when bullying & judging all come together within the gay scene”. Check out Jackie’s interesting story as a gay man in Malaysia.
“I’ve met lots of people in the gay circle. Some are really friendly, some are very judgemental. Anyway, I’m Jackie, I can be quiet during the day but fun & wild at night 😉 My goal is to achieve financial freedom and to help the needy, besides that I love traveling, partying and singing. I graduated from Taylor’s University College, Bachelor of Arts, Communication & Media Management.”
Follow Jackie @jackiefcuk
1. Living in?
Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Born & breed in Kuala Lumpur
Sales & marketing in poultries
4. Three apps which you are addicted to?
Facebook, Instagram & Whatsapp
5. Favorite part of your body?
My eyes, Right? 😉
6. Which part of a hot guy catches your eye the most?
Their clean face with nice smile
7. Three things which will get you into bed?
Good chemistry, hot body or sexy deep voice
8. Your weirdest turn on?
To be licked on the thighs
9. The strangest place you have done it?
In a restaurant’s kitchen
10. Three qualities in your perfect boyfriend?
Good looks, great charisma & ambitious
11. Dealbreaker (Something he does which prevents you dating him)?
Bad breath! Go get your teeth & gums brushed and checked, would you?
12. How long have you been single?
Since forever! SOB 🙁
13. Three reasons to visit?
The people, the nature & the food! The must eat would be ‘Bak Kut Teh’ (pork rib)
PS. get a local SIM card, and never take a cab! (Use Uber or Grab car is the best and save money 😉
14. When is the best time to visit?
Kuala Lumpur is pretty gay friendly (as long as you respect the culture) It’s summer all year around, come visit anytime.
PS. If u come on 1st & 2nd of September for KL’s biggest gay event of the year at DivineBliss
15. What’s your recommended must-do attraction?
Touring our highest skyscraper, KLCC would be a great start, followed by visiting water parks, and then night clubs!
16. Favorite night to party?
17. Where would you go?
18. What’s special about it?
The crowds and the ambience, especially the view from the rooftop bar!
19. Which neighborhood is best to stay in?
KLCC is great and it’s city centre but dont limit just here, but do wander to other place like Bangsar, Mont Kiara (and Petaling Jaya for local scenes, and because it’s where I live) lol
20. What’s special about that neighborhood?
Good and affordable food is everywhere. Pubs & clubs are happening as well.
21. If you were a tourist visiting which hotel would you stay in?
Compare prices of the best gay-friendly hotels
Jackie on coming out & life as a gay man:
“It’s certainly difficult to come out. Just recently, I’ve opened up to my mother, and she made a huge scene at home, smashing my car from after telling her I was gay. Now it’s just her living in denial hoping someday I would be back to “normal”. I always wanted to be my true self in front of her, sharing my stories and feelings. Having my mother questioning me when I’m getting a girlfriend constantly really pressures me. I am sorry I will never fulfill your dream, mother. But I want to tell you I love you, no matter how much you can’t accept me now.
I had a few ex-girlfriends where I did like them a lot but at the same time, it was just me trying to be “normal” and blend into the society. After graduated, I managed to be close with my high school mates and sort of fall for one of them.
I eventually know something was not right about me and thankfully for social media, I found out about a gay event on Facebook held in Taiwan in 2012, I decided to go and had an eye opening experiences, meeting many gay people out there and for once I feel I am not ALONE!!!
Ever since I came out to people I know and started hanging out with a few gay friends. Some heterosexual friends did distance themselves and some accepted me which I’m really thankful for that. I then open up to all my 4 sisters, yet most chosen not to acknowledge my sexuality.
Coming out is definitely made a huge impact in my life. I was under depression before I came out. I had no one to talk to, especially my feelings where I had to keep it only to myself. Ever since I came out, I feel more relief for being able to freely share my life stories, my feelings, my mood and just to be me.”